I support the notion that Women are not just homemakers; that we can and do fit into the role of more than just the Domestic role. I support the idea that Women are equal to men and that there is no superiority/inferiority between the two; and that women should therefore have equal treatment in education, job opportunities, etc. I support the idea that a women can/should be independent, can provide for herself and has so much worth standing by herself ( not by a man as she does not need a man to validate her in anything in this life). That being said…however….God did not create women and men the same for a reason and that is to MEAN something.
We are equal but we are different; and it’s okay that we are different ( not for our differences to be HELD against us but for them to be acknowledged). As a girl growing up today, you hear things like: “A women can do what a man can/if not better than a man can” or “If I can pay for X than I should because I can provide for myself as I don’t need a man to provide for me.” While it’s great that we are telling girls these days that they don’t need a man to be validated, encouraging them to be independent, letting them know that they are strong, etc….they still need to know that it’s not a competition of man versus women. We can not deny, as women, that God did not create women differently than men. A man can not do everything a women can and a women can not do everything a man can. A man can do some things a women can not and a women can do some things a man can not do. That is what it is AND those facts can not be used to hold up against each other; and right now I am really talking to the ladies out there. Sometimes we so fixated on just proving that we can do without a man, that we don’t need a man, that we are better than men…that we forget that it’s okay to be a lady too! NO, we shouldn’t sit back and be directed by men like we are inferior/only their mates/only their server. NO, we should not put up with the double standard ( and use it for our advantage) when we should get equal treatment like men. The list can go on but understand that we are not MEN! If God wanted a women to do everything a man could, he would have made it that way. If God wanted a man to do everything a women could, he would have made it that way. Can we let a man do what they do and a women do what they do without always trying to challenge/out do /judge one another ? Adrian Rogers, a southern baptist pastor, said that God did not have women to be she-men and men to be he-women.
Yes, I get that we can bring in the bacon, provide for the whole family, protect ourselves, have a baby and still keep it all together…that’s GREAT but there’s more to life than just that as a woman. If a gentleman wants to open the door, let him open the door. It does not have to be a matter of ” Oh, I am capable of opening my own door. I don’t need a man to open my door because that would mean that he is this and that “. If the gentleman wants to pay for dinner on the first date, it does NOT have to be a matter of ” Oh I got my own money, I can buy my own meal and HIS if I want to “. Not everything is a threat to your independence ;p Also, If you have a problem with a man, it does not always have to turn into some ” man-bashing” and why women are better, smarter, more capable than men talk. On the other side, if I want to be in the kitchen a lot and I love being a domesticated women, don’t judge me! If I hold the traditional idea that a man should provide for his family, don’t judge me! Doing those things don’t make me inferior or less of a strong woman! There’s nothing wrong with knowing how to cook, gardening, knowing housekeeping and whatever else people say fits into “being a women”. The problem does not even lie in doing those things! The problem was that those roles were assigned to us and held against us as the only things we should/could be doing ;p
There’s nothing wrong as a lady to let the men be men and women, women. We don’t have to do it all, ALL THE TIME! Some of us come from situations where we do have to “wear the pants”, fight the fights and lead the home but it does not have to be like that all the time and God did not even mean for it to be like that. God created male and female in his image so we are EQUAL but make no mistake….he created the male AND AND AND the female for a reason. Women , we can not do it all, be it all, give it all, provide it all, have it all..and vice versa with men! Let everything not be a competition please!!